Aphorisms and Other Learnings

An Aphorism (noun) is a pithy observation which contains a general truth. 

Living in both, reality and fantasy, I can no longer believe in and fall for mighty quotes that inspire. I would much rather read into situations and discover my own learnings. A first attempt at the same, I am listing down ten aphorisms which I owe to my past experiences, friendships, and relationships.

  1. If somebody calls you a fool repeatedly, you will soon start believing that you are one. You will then spend a good amount of time fighting that phantom only to realise that it never existed; you never were a fool to begin with
  2. The illusion of having a man by your side is painfully romantic till the time he actually is by your side.
  3. Often, love is only a euphemism for convenience.
  4. When conversations inside your head sound more enriching than outside, it’s time to change your friend circle.
  5. If the number of people you hate is significantly lower than the number of those you suspect hate you, congratulations, you’re doing well in life.
  6.  Never go by words, go by actions. Actions never lie.
  7. When convinced that you’re being lied to, play along. Don’t make your life uncomfortable, they will only deny it, or worse, make an unconvincing argument as to why they lied.
  8. Never settle, it implies that someone isn’t willing to go to great lengths for you, as you see yourself doing for him/her. So, you’re just extending your own misery.
  9. Perception is the invention of the mind. Just like a brain tumour.
  10. Never mistake codependence for friendship.

Once learnt, you cannot unlearn these little findings. While the feeling isn’t too pleasant and you find yourself becoming some sort of a cynical philosopher (?), it reinforces the fact that there is always room to learn.

Do leave your aphorisms/ thoughts/ findings/ love in the quotes!

Assumed Roles vs. Identity

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“Only in the water of rivers and ponds could he look at his face. And the very posture he had to assume was symbolic. He had to bend over, stoop down, to commit the ignominy of beholding himself.

The inventor of the mirror poisoned the human heart.”

-Fernando Pessoa

You and I, can heal, cure, transform, and inspire. We’re all storytellers. Constantly passing by other individuals, rarely taking a moment out to simply gauge that each one of them has a whole universe about them, consuming them. We’re too “busy” to reflect, to process or to empathise. For all those we do know, we judge. Judging is a relative term, isn’t it? We hold ourselves in a certain regard and in accordance to it do we view what’s around us. We also act in accordance, as we know we are constantly being judged by people around us. Our true nature reserved for when we are alone, not judged thus uninhibited. That is who you really are and that might just be more repugnant than what you pretend to condemn while playing your assumed role.