Aphorisms and Other Learnings

An Aphorism (noun) is a pithy observation which contains a general truth. 

Living in both, reality and fantasy, I can no longer believe in and fall for mighty quotes that inspire. I would much rather read into situations and discover my own learnings. A first attempt at the same, I am listing down ten aphorisms which I owe to my past experiences, friendships, and relationships.

  1. If somebody calls you a fool repeatedly, you will soon start believing that you are one. You will then spend a good amount of time fighting that phantom only to realise that it never existed; you never were a fool to begin with
  2. The illusion of having a man by your side is painfully romantic till the time he actually is by your side.
  3. Often, love is only a euphemism for convenience.
  4. When conversations inside your head sound more enriching than outside, it’s time to change your friend circle.
  5. If the number of people you hate is significantly lower than the number of those you suspect hate you, congratulations, you’re doing well in life.
  6.  Never go by words, go by actions. Actions never lie.
  7. When convinced that you’re being lied to, play along. Don’t make your life uncomfortable, they will only deny it, or worse, make an unconvincing argument as to why they lied.
  8. Never settle, it implies that someone isn’t willing to go to great lengths for you, as you see yourself doing for him/her. So, you’re just extending your own misery.
  9. Perception is the invention of the mind. Just like a brain tumour.
  10. Never mistake codependence for friendship.

Once learnt, you cannot unlearn these little findings. While the feeling isn’t too pleasant and you find yourself becoming some sort of a cynical philosopher (?), it reinforces the fact that there is always room to learn.

Do leave your aphorisms/ thoughts/ findings/ love in the quotes!

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One thought on “Aphorisms and Other Learnings

  1. Nik,

    These Aphorisms have been put down as truly as possible. I’ve had a few myself and absolutely agree with most of what you’ve written. Though the part where you’ve mentioned that one finds themselves becoming some sort of a cynical philosopher(?), Would you agree that upon learning these simple truths to life, one tends to be happier and begins to value themselves more? Honest with self is how I ‘perceive’ it. That brings me to my favourite, ‘Perception is the inception of the mind’, thank you for putting that down perfectly!

    Point 7- Would you though? Wouldn’t playing along also require energy? Lies can be toxic (more for the lier) and if one can (might I add, should), they shouldn’t continue indulging in unnecessary conversation (?)

    Alllll the love and happiness for you.
    I love your writing!

    -Rahul

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